I can do that


A few months ago I was called to be the ward relief society president.  I think we can all agree that I am not the kind of person you think of when you think of a relief society president.  I am not compassionate or empathetic.  I don’t know how to decorate anything.  I don’t even have a Costco card (which according to the bishop is not actually a requirement, weird).

I spent a lot of time praying, pondering, and studying looking for a way I could use my personal talents and gifts to fulfill this calling and build up the sisters in my ward and a scripture came to my mind over and over again:

“Yea, and are willing to mourn with those that mourn; yea, and comfort those that stand in need of comfort, and to stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places that ye may be in, even until death, that ye may be redeemed of God, and be numbered with those of the first resurrection, that ye may have eternal life–” (Mosiah 18:9).

The scripture may not be surprising, but the inspiration that came along with it was.  I am not great at mourning with those that mourn or comforting those that stand in need of comfort, though I am striving to work on those things.  However, something is absent in there that I never really noticed before.  Nowhere in that verse does it say that I need to solve all the problems that need to be solved.

The part of being a relief society president that scared me the most was having to deal with problems I don’t know how to handle.  But those problems are not mine to solve.  That is the Lord’s job.  I don’t need to take over His job.

Of course, I want to be loving, supportive, and kind.  I want to make sure they have ministering brothers and sisters.  I want to help connect them to the resources that are available to through the church and the community, but the burden of solving the problem is not mine.

When I can look past the name, it turns out that being a relief society president is just like any other calling.  My job is to listen to and act on revelation.  And I can do that.


2 thoughts on “I can do that

  1. Lorraine B. Cornish

    Bravissimo!! Nailed it! I’m so grateful that you are discovering more breadth and depth to something you already knew. The women and families in your ward are blessed to have you in this calling. Just like Elder Christoffersen said in the Ministering training videos, our efforts to serve in these Christ-like ways will change generations. You are exceptional and knowing you is a cherished blessing!


  2. This is lovely! RS is the only presidency I have never served in, and I have the same fears about it that you state. I can’t decorate anything either! It’s funny how your mind goes there, mine does too.

    Mourning with those who mourn is a big deal. I’ve had wonderful experiences with people helping me when I’m in need. And I’ve been able to help at times as well.

    When I was in Lacey, April taught me about mourning with those who mourn while she was RS President. She doesn’t know, but it changed my understanding of the concept for the better. You will affect people the same way. I’m so glad you are serving there, keep sharing what you learn!


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